Monday, August 12, 2013

How To Fight Depression And Get Out Of It

How to fight depression? What is the general plan, the grand strategy? How can you overcome your depression and do it right the first time?

These questions are very important, as there are lots of people who fail to overcome depression exactly because they don't have a good plan.

Before we review how to fight depression, let's first see how you should NOT fight it. The first mistake you could make is to ignore your depression. Don't be in a hurry to say "that won't happen to me" - we may often do it subconsciously, without actually realizing how wrong our actions are.

The second big mistake is when you force yourself into being happy. You basically pretend that your life is great, and you hope that somehow it will become true.

It's a real torture, I must say. This approach creates a huge conflict in your mind because there will be always some part that will know you're lying to yourself, but you'll still try to shut it down.

You may actually feel better for some time, but it will become worse afterward. No wonder - you are just tightening the spring of your emotions, and one day when you pass a certain threshold, they will retaliate. Trust me - it's going to be a painful experience.

Now let us see how to fight depression the right way. I firmly believe that clinical depression is caused either by objective circumstances or by imposed expectations.

While it's pretty much obvious how to fix the circumstances, I'd like to talk a little bit about false expectations.

Let's say you have a job that you hate. A very probable scenario, as most of us don't like their jobs. Now ask yourself this - why did you take it at the first place? Can you really, honestly say that you made a conscious decision? Most probably you won't even know why you chose to become someone you didn't want to be.

In most cases your choice can be tracked down to other people's opinion. You most probably took that job because your mom and dad told you so. They wanted the best for their child, of course, but in that case I'm pretty sure you have the right to decide for yourself.

Never listen to others when it comes to making the most important decisions in your life. Become blind, deaf and follow your instincts. If you do that, you'll see how false expectations will vanish like a bad dream, together with your depression.

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