When the beautiful day ends, what follows is a dark night; when a love relationship breaks up, what follows is a long period of brooding, frustration and depression. If you have recently gone through this terrible experience of a break up, you must be upset, feeling an acute sense of loss and possibly spiraling into a period of acute depression. At a time when you should be concentrating on taking steps to revive the relationship or building up a new one, this depression can be devastating indeed. You need some constructive suggestions about how to steer clear of this break up depression.
First of all, you must be able to recognize the symptoms of this break up depression so that you know when they are serious enough to require professional help. Bio-chemically, depression occurs as a result of some chemical imbalances in the brain which may be brought about by several causes. A sudden, traumatic event is one of the most potent ones and can have very serious consequences for you.
Symptoms of break up depression are - an ever present fatigue, irritability over trifles, decreased appetite, a lowered interest in the things that pleased you or activities you enjoyed, and sleep disturbances. You are constantly haunted by an uneasy feeling that things will not change now, they will not be any better. These feelings are not uncommon in the normal course of life; most people experience these to, a greater or lesser extent, at some point in their life and recover without any professional help. However, if they are very strong, have begun to interfere with your normal life, or producing thoughts of taking some drastic step like harming yourself, then you do require professional help.
It is somewhat difficult for a person affected by break up depression to tell the symptoms of depression from the normal feelings of frustration and loss that usually accompany a break up. So ask your friends whether they think you have drastically changed from your normal self. Conversely, if some of your friend has recently broken up, see whether he or she sees to be completely different from what they used to be. If yes, it is certainly time to seek professional help.
Professional help may include counselling as well as medication. If you are put on medication, do not feel bad about it. It is as much normal to take anti- depressant or other medication for mental illnesses as for physical ones, and depression is nothing but a mental illness. In fact, you will be surprised if you get to know how many of your friends and acquaintances have taken anti-depressants at some or the other point in their life.
In the same way, do not feel bad about seeking help and support from your friends and people close to you in order to get through these difficult times. After all we deal with every other crisis in our life on the strength of our loved ones' support; so why not this?
At the same time take some other steps that would help you come out of it faster. If older pastimes no longer seem fun, try some new ones. Did you fancy joining some hobby class or a club earlier? Well, go ahead now. Find excuses to be out of the house with your fiends and things that require you to focus your mind on. Work your way out of depression in a health club on the treadmill, or doing any other exercise you prefer. Besides relieving stress, exercise will improve your health and appearance and knowing that you are now fitter and more beautiful than you were when you were in that ill-fated relationship, can work wonders with your mood.
So, don't confine yourself to your house brooding in despair if you have broken up recently; get professional help, seek the assistance of friends and loved ones, find new interests and activities and work to rejuvenate your health and shape up your figure. You will find after a few days that you are again fresh and vibrating with life.