I love my wife but she is leaving - what now?
Breakups can destroy lives, they can lead us in to depression, they can have an enormous emotional effect on our children and they have the power to change the course of everyone's lives close to us if we let them.
Are all breakups bad? Do they all bring long lasting grief?
In certain circumstances they don't, especially when the circumstances before the separation were terrible, particularly if they were physically or mentally abusive. Sometimes the separation may actually be the best thing for everyone involved. Now I am certainly not suggesting that you won't have to mentally cope with the emotions that come with a separation but you will get through them much faster if you have accepted your situation for what it is.
The key is getting your feet on solid ground. Most relationships are salvageable however the real key is determining if they should be salvaged otherwise you're likely to be in a vicious love hate cycle for years to come.
Here are some deep thought provoking quotes that can help you gain some clarity:
Grant Gudmundson: Love is unconditional, relationships are not.
Anonymous: Relationships are like glass. Sometimes its better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting it back together.
Victoria Holt: Never regret. If it's good, it's wonderful. If it's bad, it's experience.
Robert Frost: Families break up when people take hints you don't intend and miss hints you do intend.
If your wife has made the final decision that she is leaving then you must be careful about what you do next. If you had what you would consider to be a great relationship with your wife then your first move should be to let her go. At this point your wife is emotional, she has made up her mind that she is leaving and the last thing that you want to do is stand in her way.
Letting her go and accepting the situation for what it is, is actually the most important step to eventually getting her back. Women don't just pick up and leave for no reason unless they are mentally unstable. You're eventually going to find out where you went wrong but at first give her some space and let her collect her thoughts.
Acceptance is huge, stay away from negativity or re-hashing the things that are wrong. Eventually you'll have an opportunity but for now play it cool and give her some space.