A break up is very had to come to terms with. It doesn't matter who initiated the break up, the loss of a relationship is always hard to take. If you are in a place where you have been in a break up but don't know what to do read on to get some perspective.
Allow yourself to grieve
If you feel that you can pick up the pieces of your life right after you have broken up then you need to get a reality check. You need to give yourself some time to grieve and mourn the loss of your relationship. It's only then that you will be able to move on. So cry your heart out but don't become a manic depressive.
Don't think that its permanent
Don't think of the break up as a final full stop. People break up and make up all the time. Sometimes people break up only to realize that they need some space in the relationship to sort out some issues. So be open minded enough to accept the chance of reconciliation.
Find things that can make you feel better
Meanwhile, you should look out for things that make you feel better. You cannot allow yourself to mope on forever. So if you have certain hobbies, interests or passions that you have put on the back burner for long, now would be the time to delve into them. The busier you stay the easier it becomes to deal with the break up.
Don't be a recluse
Don't shy away from company. You have to start meeting people soon enough. The sooner you start getting back into the social circuit the better you will feel. It might take a lot of motivation to get out but you will begin to enjoy your new found freedom soon.
Get rid of the guilt
Every person makes some mistake or the other in a relationship and so did you. But don't let the guilt take over your life. You made a mistake pay the price for it and move on.
Think about a reconciliation
If you feel that you probably made a mistake by ending the relationship there is no harm in thinking of reconciliation. In fact even if you were the one who was dumped you can work on resolving your relationship issues and get back together with your ex.
Reconnect with your ex
Let some time go by and when all the hard bitter feelings are gone it's time to reconnect with your ex. Never burn any bridges. Talk to your ex, be friends and who knows? Maybe you'll find the lost love!
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