Tip to Prevent Adolescence Suicide - Third Factors Part - 9

"Decision to commit suicide of a teenager is so momentous that he, even himself gets astonished if survived after a failed suicide attempt" My dear Ezine readers, I am indeed very grateful to all of you for the encouragement you have given to me in preventing Adolescence Suicide a worldwide endeavor. My attempt in saving our promising, potential, keen, aficionado and enthusiast teenagers really deserve the best of comforts, guidance and support to make our planet a peaceful place. The memories of Virginia University campus macabre massacre has left every sane person shattered; but nevertheless the life goes on as usual. Once, my grandfather Sri Ramji Das Mehta said quote "life on the earth does not wait for anyone and moves with the time. Anyone, who does not move with it, is left behind; and he has wasted those many happy moments of his life" unquote. When I analyze his last words, I find that every word of his quotes is true to the last word. You will agree with me that there is another cause also which tempts a teenager to take away his life. What are these issues I would share with my esteem readers?

When I wished to launch a series of articles on the burning issue of teenager suicide, I have never imagined that we united would be able to convince our teenagers to stop ending their lives under stress. Before I progress further; I would also debate about various concerns of teenagers due to which they go astray. The Pampered Child Syndrome (PCS) is not common in modern world. Readers would share my concern that such children are often known for indiscipline and arrogant behavior. What do I really mean with PCS is that a child who is provided with all worldly comforts but fails to adjust himself with his common colleagues and classmates.

While trying to analyze and understand the true causes of external factor affecting teenagers' suicide other than parent and school, I have observed amongst parents of such teenagers three basic flows,

o My first view is that when the parents are exceptionally over committed and they find difficult to frequently share time with their wards, they often believe that their teenagers should be just contacted as and when required and not much attention is paid. Parents repeatedly overlook their teenagers various arrogant and hutted behavior. They feel that parents should provide maximum comforts to their wards while studying. I generally call it "King Comfort Clan" (KCC). There is a need for the parents to review what comfort is required; and what the bare necessities for studies are? I suggest that parents rather than fulfilling and meeting the necessities, must interact with their teenagers to become adaptable in the society. Over 42% teenagers from High Income Groups and Middle Income Groups (HIG/MIG) come from such background. Even sometimes single child amongst Hindus have enough coddled the child to blight his/her future. The parents need to be guided to manage time and space well to share their wards joyous moment and support stressful time.

o The second important facet is the Blind Provisioning of Requirement (BPR) of teenagers by some parents. The BPR should be carefully weighed before fulfilling their teenagers' demands. Some times I have observed that parents fulfill the demand without judiciously analyzing the need. I would say the need and demand of teenagers has to be weighed against his Choice of Preferences Career (CPC) as debated earlier. Every parent has the wisdom to take premeditated steps in guiding their teenagers' future. I suggest that parents should be alive to the environmental changes around their teenagers to take preventive measure in case of stress and strain is developed. The blind provisioning of needs often spoils the child at the later age. I identify the BPR as one of the most important cause of Teenagers and Adolescence Suicide (TAAS).

o My third perception is to debate about the reality of money in present environment. Some parents weigh everything with the money. I have termed it as "Money Mended Parents" (MMP). Parents, irrespective of the needs and requirements of their teenagers in schools, do shelve out money to their teenagers just to make them happier; but actually they have unintentionally paved the way for insolvent wards in long run. Such parents believe that every thing can be weighed with the money. Their perception is imbibed by their wards and exhibited at various occasion to assert their position with respect to other teenagers. teenager and I have observed that on as now discuss a few issues which are neither

After prolonged study on various suicide cases I have concluded that the "Decision to commit suicide of a teenager is so momentous that he, even himself gets astonished if survived after a failed suicide attempt". Some of the teenagers have revealed that before making a Suicidal Attempt (SA) they have believed that:

· One; the life is useless and I am relieving myself from the miseries of world;

· Two; they feel themselves so helpless that they cannot achieve what they wanted; therefore, they must end their life. Such incidences take place with Highly Ambitious Parents (HAP).

· Three; often they move around aimlessly for sometimes before an SA;

· Four; normally either they become silent and secluded or very violent and arrogant from others while trying to conceal their intention;

· Five; exhibit very tense and worrisome facial expression one or two days before the SA;

· Six; often hint using threatening languages to end his/her life; and when parents take it as a joke, they commit suicide due to frustration. I have studied that a teenager would exhibit his intention very clearly to his parents before making a SA. He would surely dramatize his intention by words, deeds or action.

· Seven; would exhibit sense of dejection and fruitless life. Such teenagers often begin to talk about the wasteful life and measures to free from worldly miseries.

· Eight; generally acts in a manner to draw attention of his parents or someone he loves most. He would call and try to ascertain his position in his beloved people's heart. Often he/she would say quote "how would you feel if I die" and so on.

· Ninth; the sense of hatred reaches the zenith of such teenagers' temperament. They repeatedly begin to talk about the person whom they dislike or had some problem. The abusive language should a clear indication to monitor their teenagers activities to avoid SA;

· Tenth; I have also observed that some teenagers try to clear all their financial dues if any they had. They would reply very casually but clearly indicating their intention such as "I may not live longer to repay", "who has seen future", or "how do you know, who is alive tomorrow" and so on.

The above activities of teenagers though engender doubts in the mind of all but

parents seldom take it seriously. The theory of Third Suicidal Factors amongst teenagers goes to Sri Jagan Nath BA and Srimati Devki Devi who had always kept watch in my village to prevent such suicides. What are Third Suicidal Factors and how it influences teenagers to commit suicide?

I defined the Third Suicidal Factor (TSF) as creation of adverse circumstances around a teenager's environment which affects his customary behavior while performing studies at school". The TSF are found out to be quite high amongst my pampered teenagers and some fatherless teenagers in third world and Asian countries. Though some odd cases can not be ruled out in European and American countries but by and large percentage is far higher in Asian countries. I would now discuss as to what are these TSF?

· One; the first and foremost TSF is the Ambitions. The over, super and hyper Ambitious teenagers are more susceptible to exploit. They wish to succeed at all cost to fulfill their parent's dream. I have come across a girl teenager who had compromised with her teacher to get good grade in the school. She continued to top the school but when time of real test came; she failed, thus, going into severe mental stress. She ended her life with a guilty conscience left behind in the suicide note. I suggest that parents should share their mind repeatedly with their teenagers that whatsoever they achieve with hard work are acceptable to them; therefore, the teenagers should work hard.

· Second the next important TSF is the friendship and group of teenager. I have personally seen a teenager becoming druggist and going astray. They indulge in unwanted sex at premature age, thus, losing vital body energy at very tender age. An old Indian saying, that chameleon changes color on seeing other chameleon" proofs true. The teenagers follow the society as per his friends circle. Generally teenagers of BPR and MMP become victim of such bad society. The latest Rap party of Pune in India where police have caught over two hundred adults and teenagers using drugs and liquor. A few teenagers from Low Income Group (LIG) usually get fascinated and trapped to ultimately either commit suicide or become criminals. I suggest that parents must maintain a working school schedule for their wards on monthly basis and one of the parents must routinely follow the schedule not to spy but to check teenager erroneous steps.

· Third, another TSF issue is the Money. Some of the teenagers get involved in earning easy money to have comfortable but unaffordable life style of riches. Such teenagers follow illegal course and often end up in committing suicide. The modern lifestyle has drifted many brilliant students towards criminality. The easy money approach made many male teenagers chain snatchers or burglars. A teenager had attempted to commit suicide due to shame and disrepute he brought to his family after police nabbed him. Despite knowing well that he was not involved but police has caught him due his unknowingly close proximity with the boy who was actually a thief. I suggest that parents should keep a time schedule of their wards and often check with school authorities about any absence of their wards from schools.

· Fourth; the most important TSF is the Improper Supervision Attitude (ISA) of parent's both at home and school which drifts their teenagers towards gambling, drugs and liquor parties. I recommend that parents should maintain continuous communication with their wards. Parents need to carryout weekly free interaction to assert their educational preparations. Any lapse of parents in Time Managing and Monitoring Schedule (TMMS) of their wards might lead into unmanageable conditions later. All parents are request to maintain Som Kalpna Time Managing and Monitoring Schedule (TMMS) chart. It is a simple chart designed with a religious symbol of your religion in the top center followed by name of ward, date of birth, class and school time table including tuition. It should be thereafter divided as, subject, time from to, break tea or lunch, games and other. At the bottom should record tuition timings, television favorite serials or film times, and minimum forty five minutes of physical exercise or game playing time. The last Coolum should always have sleep time noted as Sleep before 11 PM and rise early to study at 5 or 6 AM.

· Fifth; in addition to above a few other unforeseen TSF could be unintentional involvement in crimes or illegal activities such as copying during examinations on other student's encouragement or so on. Notwithstanding the above, my suggestion approach of RASH are

o Regularly interact and continuously monitor your teenager's time schedule but never follow;

o Avoid Pampering your child;

o Support his bad decisions, and

o Hear all problems patiently. My endeavor to debate about the Third Suicidal Factors (TSF), is to enlarge the base of educating probable couples to understand the complexities of life if teenagers fall party to any of the TSF noted above. I am very certain that a large number of teenagers would be saved from falling pray to TSF with active understanding of parents and teachers. I would analyze the common causes of suicide other than one Attitudinal Changes noted above in my attempt to unfold as to why a teenager commits suicide?

Natural Depression Cures Are the Best Treatment For Depression

If you or someone you love suffers from any form of depression, then you already know how much misery and unhappiness any type of depressive condition can cause. Because every type of depression has the ability to remove each and every positive from everyday life, depression is literally a condition from which there is no real escape.

When people first suspect that they have depression, it is natural and right that they should get their condition medically and psychologically diagnosed because without really knowing what is wrong with you, it is impossible to know how to treat any condition that you have.

However, after you have been issued with a professional diagnosis of clinical depression of one type or another, then you have a decision to make.

The first option and the one that is likely to be proposed by your medical attendant or psychologist is that they treat you using popular pharmaceutical antidepressant drugs like Prozac.

But, whilst drugs like Prozac are very commonly prescribed as an effective depression remedy, it is also a fact that many chemical-based pharmaceuticals can sometimes trigger adverse side-effects, and antidepressant tablets are no exception to this rule.

Of course, there may be situations where the depression being suffered by an individual is so strong or extreme that there is no choice other than to accept chemical antidepressants, but in truth, the number of people who fall into this category is going to be very much of a minority.

The fact of the matter is, most people who suffer depression do not really need to take chemical-based antidepressants. Unfortunately however, because many of these people are going to be unaware that there are perfectly viable and highly effective natural alternatives to antidepressants available, they are quite likely to simply go along with the professional advice that they start taking antidepressants.

The truth is, there are some extremely powerful but entirely natural substances that you can take which are highly effective in dealing with many different types of depression. For example, there is one particular natural substance which is believed to be every bit as effective as Prozac, but without the risk of unpleasant or even dangerous side-effects.

On top of this, there are plenty of other natural depression cures as well as strategies and lifestyle changes that you can adopt which can help to minimize the worst effects of depression.

In conclusion, exploring natural cures for depression should always be your preferred option of choice before you turn to chemical-based antidepressants. Given that there are such a wide range of natural depression cures available, it is highly likely that the majority of people who suffer from depression can bring their condition under control completely naturally.

Mental Health's Importance in Today's World - A Psychologist's Perspective

A growing recognition of the fact that "mental health is fundamental to a person's overall health, indispensable to personal well-being and instrumental to leading a balanced and productive life" likely contributes to the fact that about 15% of our country's population now use some form of mental health services in any given year. Nonetheless, despite effective treatments, according to Dr. Satcher's 1999 Surgeon General's Mental Health report, "Nearly half of all Americans who have a severe mental illness fail to seek treatment". The fact that nearly one in five Americans are affected by a mental disorder, reinforces the understanding that "few Americans are untouched by mental illness", whether directly or indirectly.

Clinical anxiety and clinical depression are real, treatable conditions that interfere with a person's overall well-being and ability to do many of the things that they would otherwise enjoy. A suffer of clinical depression can no more "snap out of it," than a person suffering from a seizure has the will-power to stop taking a seizure.

Mental illnesses range from clinical anxiety and depression to Alzheimer's disease and schizophrenia. Anxiety disorders, the most common form of mental illness, affect more than 10% of Americans yearly. Almost 25% of Americans will suffer an anxiety disorder at some point in their lives. Every May, thousands of sites throughout the country offer free, local anxiety screenings, as part of National Anxiety Disorders Screening Day. Each October, national sites off free screenings for depression, as part of National Depression Screening Day.

For more information about N.A.D.S.D., N.D.S.D., as well as a complete on-line copy of the Surgeon General's 500 page mental health publication, visit: www.SimplifiedHealth.com/links.htm

Jerry Solfanelli

The 7 Most Common Physical Symptoms of Depression

Depression reveals itself in so many ways and experiencing physical symptoms of depression is not uncommon. It is possible to feel both physical symptoms as well as the classic emotional symptoms which include low sense of self, low self esteem, feeling hopeless or helpless, having feelings of despair, and, of course, serious feelings of sadness. In addition to having these emotional symptoms, physical symptoms can present themselves as well and can be just as troubling or even more bothersome than the emotional symptoms.

Physical symptoms of depression present themselves in seven common ways. It is possible for an individual to feel a few of them or all of them. Frankly, it just depends on the individual and how bad the depression really is. These symptoms that reveal themselves physically include:

Headaches: Usually a depressed individual also experiences stress and both can result in chronic or severe headaches. Often times this can lead to taking too many pain relievers so it is important to monitor this. If the headaches persist then you should consider natural alternatives such as meditation, visualization or even various breathing techniques. All of which are known to relieve headaches and, more importantly, relieve stress. It also is beneficial with getting "grounded" which, in turn, can help to alleviate the feelings of depression.

Back Pain / muscle aches / chest pain: While none of these should be ignored, it is important to take chest pains seriously. Particularly if they exhibit the same kind of pains and experiences that would manifest if you were having a heart attack. In this case, seek professional help as soon as possible. In the case of back pain and muscle aches, these symptoms - if already present - can get worse and become chronic. However, the pain can also be new as a result of the depression.

Digestive Issues: Stress, of course, can cause digestive issues but depression can as well. The symptoms can be things such as IBS or Irritable Bowel Syndrome, cramping, diarrhea and chronic constipation.

Gaining /losing weight due to appetite changes: Depression and stress often times results in a significant decrease or increase in appetite which, ultimately, results in weight loss or gain.

Having difficulty sleeping: High stress levels or depression can result in changes in sleeping habits. If the individual has lost hope or sees no reason to get up he may sleep more. On the other hand, when the individual feels stress and anxiety, coupled with the depression, they may have difficulty falling asleep much less sleeping during the night at all.

Feelings of exhaustion and/or fatigue: Often times, depression brings about such sadness that the individual doesn't even want to get out of bed. Feeling exhausted or fatigued just amplifies the problem.

Being light headed or dizzy: If someone is experiencing high levels of anxiety or is in a manic phase of Bipolar disorder then often times this results in an "emotional rush" of sorts which leads to being light headed or dizzy.

All of these physical symptoms of depression should be duly noted and considered when evaluating whether an individual is clinically depressed or not. When they are accompanied by the emotional symptoms as well then the individual should consider contacting a mental health professional to for a complete evaluation and to obtain a proper diagnosis. This way a comprehensive treatment plan can be put into place so that the individual can begin recovering and ultimately live a happy, productive life again.

Inspirational Quotes Meant to Motivate Teams

There are many inspirational quotes that have gone down in history that are meant to promote the spirit of team building from different speakers. One of these quotes is "Talent wins games, but teamwork and intelligence wins championships." This inspirational quote is from one of the greatest basketball players of all time Michael Jordan and it is meant to encourage individuals to that apart from ability there has to be teamwork involved in any tasks if they are to be completed successfully. Another famous quote is how teams play as a whole determine its success.

You could have the best individual stars in the whole world, but without them playing together, the club isn't worth a dime. This is a quote from Babe Ruth and it is meant to show that in order for a team to work together successfully it does not depend on how many talented people are in it, but the effort each person puts to support each other is what will count. "Strength lies in differences, not in similarities." This is another quote from the famous Stephen Covey and it basically says that people who have similarities are not very strong but those with differences are stronger and this because they can accommodate each other.

Another famous quote from Billy Martin says that there is nothing greater than when somebody from the team does something good and everyone pats them on the back. This quote is meant for individuals in teams to encourage each of them to do a good deed that will benefit the group and at the same time for team members to acknowledge the good deeds and go as far as encourage more good deeds that will help the team reach its goals. "Coming together is a beginning, keeping together is progress and working together is success" is another inspirational quote basically used to encourage the spirit of team building and ensuring the unity is lasting in order for individuals to work together for the success of a common goal. This quote also encourages people to find ways of keeping together a specific team that is responsible for a specific task. Of notice is also this common quote "Teamwork is the fuel that allows common people to attain uncommon results." This quote points out at the differences that various people in the same group may have but still have what it takes to attain a common goal.

It is very clear that not everyone in a group has the same thoughts or ideas as the others but this should not be hinder the group's successful completion of their respective tasks. Theodore Roosevelt also has an interesting quote that goes something like this; greatest executives are the ones who have wisdom enough to choose good men to do a good job, and self-control enough to stop from interfering while they their job. This quote is specifically dedicated to leaders or managers who are responsible of picking leaders of specific groups to complete certain tasks. And it basically says the best leaders will always pick the right person for the task and at the same time he will not interfere with the group as they are in the process of completing the task.

Bullycide - When Bullying Leads to Suicide

The term bullycide was originally coined by journalist Neil Marr, who wrote a book called Bullycide: Death at Playtime. This book discusses the torment children and teens suffer from cases of bullying. Some teens and children simply cannot take the torment and the depression they find themselves facing after countless occasions of bullying, bullied either physically or verbally. There are many types of bullying from pushing and shoving to hurtful words and rumors. Cyberbullying is also a new type of bullying that is continuing to grow describing the type of bullying that takes place online. As online social networking websites continue to grow, so do the rates of cyberbullying. In recent years, countless cases of bullying has reached epidemic levels, which is why so many teens are at risk for bullycide.

What is Bullycide?

Bullycide is a term used to describe suicide as a result of bullying. Bullycide cases are difficult to track statistically, but many suicides from the past few years among teens are not being attributed to cases of severe bullying in school and online. Teens are major targets for mean activity from their peers. Bullying is no exception. Bullycide usually comes as a result of teen depression after the teen is teased and bullied mercilessly over the course of an extended period of time. If you know a teen that is exhibiting signs of depression and is being bullied, it is a good idea to ensure that teen gets help from an adult or reliable source to make the bullying stop. From there, they will most likely need help with dealing with their teen depression. Preventing the levels of teen depression from growing is one of the best ways to help prevent bullycide.

Types of bullying include verbal and physical. While physical bullying can have both a physical and emotional effect, verbal bullying is the type of bullying that continues to increase in popularity. Teens may feel they can get away with verbal types of bullying more, which is why it is such a growing trend among teens. Verbal bullying can include face-to-face name calling as well as spreading rumors or taking behind a person's back. Verbal bullying also takes on a fuller form online when teens use social networking tools like Facebook, MySpace and other resources to spread lies about their peers or to gang up on their classmates. Bullying in any form can have a long-lasting effect on a person's self-esteem. Having poor self-esteem is a direct result of teen depression in many cases. From this point, bullycide becomes a desired option for some who are dealing with teen depression issues.

Bullycide Prevention:

The best way to enact bullycide prevention is to prevent the cause before it starts. Teachers and schools are doing a better job at cracking down on bullying before it starts. However, it is also up to the parent to watch for warning signs that their child is being bullied. If a teen is acting withdrawn, "losing" their personal property or is facing issues like teen depression, it might be because they are being bullied. This is when it is important for parents to step in and talk to their teen. Communication is of the utmost importance in situations like these. Be sure to talk to those who are facing issues like bullying before it reaches dangerous proportions like bullycide. Help build self-esteem in your teen because that is a great way to help them if they are bullied by others. Those with low self-esteem are more likely to suffer from teen depression or to become victims of bullying. By enforcing that feeling of self-esteem, the teen is more likely to be able to handle any kind of bullying situation or will be fortunate not to find themselves in that situation in the first place. Ending bullying before it begins is the best way to prevent these tragic cases of bullycide.

Stuff Happens and it Shouldn't Keep You From Getting a Good Price on Life Insurance!

I don't know what some life insurance companies are thinking when they rate a policy because someone was on or is on an anti depressant or anti anxiety medication due to something completely situational like a divorce, the loss of a job or a death in the family.

But, the truth is that most companies lump short term situational mood disorders in the same bale with long term chronic mood disorders. If there is current or a history of depression they will automatically bump a client to a standard rate. Some companies just swallow a bottle of stupid pills and decline an application that has any mention of mood disorders at all.

Is this fair underwriting? Is it a true reflection of the mortality risk and the mortality experience between situational and chronic mood disorders? The answer to both of those is NO! While companies are free to set their own underwriting criteria, unless there are extenuating circumstances, anything worse than a preferred or preferred plus rate for situational depression or anxiety is simply another case of the wrong agent using the wrong company at your expense.

I've had clients come to me after being battered by an insurance company for having taken anti anxiety medication during finals in medical school, or having taken anti depression meds after losing 3 family members in a short period of time. Let's be real. These are reasonable times to feel anxiety and depression and it just isn't out of line to ask your doctor for some help in getting through that period. In fact, far better to ask for help than to let the moods drag you down into a deeper, more chronic situation. Comparably, most companies don't have a rating if your cholesterol is high and a doctor prescribes cholesterol lowering drugs.

So what to do? If you have or have had a situational mood disorder and have just needed some months or even a year of medication to smooth things out, discard any life insurance agent who quotes you standard rates or worse. Seek out an independent agent who understands the issue and has a large number of companies to shop your case to.

Bottom line. Life has its' ups and downs and there is no mortality risk based reason for life insurance companies to beat you up because you happened to have experienced one. Find the right agent and they'll find the right company.