Anger is never good can always harm you more than it can harm others. You could destroy a friendship or a relationship that you built over the years in just a moment of anger. There are several ways of anger management and self control is the only way in which one can control his or her anger. I personally count to 100 slowly and I am usually calmed down by time I reach 50. And there are various other ways of self control. I have also found that reading motivational books can make you curtail anger to a great extent. Since we all don't have the time to read, I have compiled some quotes on anger by famous writer and philosophers that might help you to control you anger.
There is a saying that repentance and anger towards someone is like drinking poison and wishing that the person would die. Self control is when we can keep a check on our desires but it rarely happens that you just go mad about getting something, and self control is easier when it is about keeping a check on some desire, because you can certainly control your desire. But anger is spontaneous and if you were conscious of it, you would not be angry in the first place. And because it is so spontaneous, it becomes all the more difficult to control Anger.
It needs a lot of practice to control anger and you need to stop it as soon as it comes because it is often too late if you let yourself loose even for a few seconds. As soon as you get angry, always try to remember what could go wrong if you fly off the handle and think whether you will repent something that you are going to do momentarily. If you let anger overcome you, your inner demon will say that you don't care about the consequences, and when you start thinking that way, you need to think of the adverse consequences that your loved ones might have to face.
Here are some tips to control Anger:
1) Understand your common causes of anger :
When I was in living in the dorm, I used to get very angry whenever someone wakes me up just to ask me something trivial. Somehow my anger takes over because someone broke my sleep just to ask something trivial and I would just scream at whoever is waking me up. Of course I would apologize later for losing my handle, but by then I would have made the damage.
But I knew the cause of anger. I get angry very often in this particular situation and I said to myself then that I will think rationally and not scream when someone wakes me up. Because you, it was not the question that irked me, but the fact that some one woke me up lit the fire, and the trivial question just adds fuel to my anger. I just had to not light the fire to control my anger. And after months of practice when I asked a friend to wake me up everyday, and then practicing not to be irritated when I am woken could I control my morning or siesta anger.
2) Think of God :
This might not work for atheists, but those who have faith in god must try to remember his favorite god whenever he is in danger and pray to help him conquer his anger. Whenever I start losing my temper, I would start praying to god like crazy to help me overcome the anger, and yes it sure helps.
3) Think of the consequences :
This is the most difficult thing to do when you are angry, because when we are angry, we often don't care about any consequences, and we don't care about anything. In times like that, think hard about all the consequences. Think about your loves ones what it might cause to them, even if you don't care.
4) Count to 100
Now this is the most effective, age old formula for controlling anger. Ignore everything above, and ignore everything around you and just start counting from 1 till you are calmed down. It works even better if you count using you fingers. Just count away your anger. This is the most effective technique. Try it.
It also helps to remember these quotes that I have compiled. Print them out and post them in several visible places and it will certainly calm you down.
"For every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness."
-Ralph Waldo Emerson
"Speak when you are angry - and you'll make the best speech you'll ever regret."
- Dr. Laurence J. Peter
"Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned."
- Gautama Buddha
"Resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die. "
- Malachy McCourt
"When anger rises, think of the consequences""
"There are two things a person should never be angry at, what they can help, and what they cannot."
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